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Monday, August 9, 2010

Cost of Adoption

“My Friends, adoption is
It’s costly, exhausting,
expensive, and outrageous.
Buying back lives costs so much.
When God set out to redeem us,
it killed Him.”
-Derek Loux

This past February is when my husband and I both felt the Lord calling us to pursue adoption. At that time he also used Jedd Medefind (President of the Christian Alliance for Orphans) to begin to prepare us for the difficulty that would lie ahead during the adoption process.

While listening to his lecture we began to understand that the road of adoption wasn’t easy filled or filled with a sense of dreaminess. The main thrust of his lecture was about counting the cost of adoption. Counting the cost of emotional stress and pain. He also reminded us that if we adopt for any reason other than the Gospel and God’s call then we will grow weary when the trials of adoption arise. We realized that if we adopt for obligation, enthusiasm, duty or guilt then we would indeed die in weariness.

Now that we are heavily into the adoption process with two children in our home for a few weeks now we have greatly understood this statement and it has indeed become a reality in our home. Adoption is wonderful, joyful, Christ exalting and so many more beautiful things, but, it’s very difficult.

The most beautiful thing of adoption is that in the midst of the cost I have began to understand more of what was required to purchase me for adoption… the cost was the death of God Himself. If God hadn’t adopted us then we would be in hell. Praise Jesus that He graciously didn’t give me what I deserve!

(picture is of Matt and I at the Adopting for Life confrence in Feb. 2010 at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary)

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  1. My husband and I dream of adopting someday, and I really appreciate these thoughts on the reality of it. Blessings on you and your husband as you persevere in these difficult but oh-so-worthwhile days.

  2. Anna, it's a beautiful thing to dream of… the blessings are amazing and the call to adoption is a wonderful thing! Thank you so much for your encouragement.

  3. Wow, loved your quote Marcie! Adoption has always been something that I've considered and have been praying about for awhile now. Loved reading what you learned from Jedd Medefind's lecture. Thanks so much for linking up with me today at Good Morning Girls! 🙂

  4. Oh thank you so much for sharing this… My husband and I will be adopting too in the future (and I can't wait).

    Would you mind if I repost this on my blog? If so – could you please email me at metrobelarus@yahoo.com with the text of this post, your picture and a little blurb about yourself.

  5. Marcie, I don't know you and I have only just found your blog, but I will be praying for your family. I have 3 adopted children (adopted at ages 18 months, 7 months and 6 months they are now 17, 14 and 13) and it's a hard, heartbreaking process (even when everything goes without a hitch!).

  6. Just found your blog from the Blog Bash link-up.

    My husband and I were at the Adopting for Life conference too! {Are you in Louisville?}

    Praying for you today and your journey!